What Can I Do to Teach Good Behaviors to My 4 Year Old?

Four year old children are at an age where they are really starting to spread their wings. A typical four year is learning how to use their imagination and may get a little confused at times between reality and fiction. They are normally very active and willing to try anything that pops into their heads. Parents may feel strained after trying to keep their child safe, especially if the child will not listen to the parents' directions.

In most situations, rules are devised to help keep the child safe. A four year old child has a fairly short memory still and may forget the rules on a day to day basis. This leads to the parent becoming frustrated because they feel like they are constantly repeating themselves. Although you might be doing just that, step back and look at the situation. Remember, your child is not trying to get you angry or frustrated. They are still too young to practice the art of thinking before acting.

Instead of telling the child, they cannot do a certain activity, have you tried telling them what they can do? This kind of direction helps eliminate the grey area in your rules. When they do violate one of your rules, what is your response? Are you angry, frustrated, or exasperated?

The child will read these emotions on your face and may not fully hear what you are trying to say. Instead, try remaining calm, use gestures or physically show the child what you are saying. Once you have explained to them, in words they understand, have them repeat if back to you. It is important the rules are consistently enforced.

Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?