How Should Parents Talk to Their Children?

Some parents may be a little confused on how they should be talking with their children. Do you talk to them the same way you talk to other adults? Should you use baby talk? Children learn their vocabularies from their parents. It is your job to teach them how to communicate, verbally and non-verbally.

Young children under the age of five, typically have a limited vocabulary. When you are giving them directions, it is important to use words they know. Using big words will only lead to confusion and frustration. It is helpful if the parent uses hand gestures or physically demonstrates an action to the child. Speak slowly and use a tone that is conversational. Yelling will immediately cause the child to go on the defensive and your message will most likely not be heard.

When you are talking to your child, make eye contact. This actually helps you to read their expressions. Look at their facial expressions to see if they look confused, angry, happy or frustrated. The child may not know how to tell you that what you said to them frustrates them. Their reaction may be to throw a tantrum instead of trying to find the words needed to express their emotions.

It is also important to use your voice in a way that expresses what you really want to happen. Fluctuate your voice tone to emphasize key words in your sentences. This tells the listener that this particular word is important, and they should pay attention. Use pauses to allow the child to process what you just told them before you continue. Children will pick up on these techniques and be able to use them in future conversations.

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